There are still 60 kids waiting for mentors at Ortega! In the beginning of the year, our school Counselor sends home an application for parents to sign their kids up for a mentor at Ortega. I'm a part of
Seedling
, which is a special mentor program for kids who have a parent or relative who has been incarcerated. Ortega also has a program where you can become a mentor through AISD.
The cycle of poverty is an overwhelming problem to tackle, the systemic injustices are beyond our capabilities, but education is where kids are able to change the course of their lives. I've been able to mentor for 3 years now. Volunteering half-an-hour a week seems to be a small cost, but the investment has been one of the most rewarding. Just lending a listening ear, a word of encouragement has been so simple, something you would do for any kid that you met on the street, but has meant a world of a difference to one girl. I asked her what she would like to be one day, and without hesitation she said, "A mentor!"
Every Thursday, I ask her what she would like to do. In kindergarten we tried reading books in the library, playing on the playground, eating lunch together, but she ended up choosing to paint and do artwork. For a while, we spent every Thursday cutting, pasting, painting, and drawing, but recently she has begun to really enjoy PE. We've been playing volleyball in the gym, her sister was on the volleyball team in HS. It's been a privilege to see her interests change and her talents develop, and to help her feel loved when her friends and family were up and down. Even in Second grade, kids have so much to One of her friends said, "I'm not your friend anymore, don't talk to me," and got her friends to stop speaking to her.
Giving each child the ability to feel special makes an enormous impression on them. Just the fact that someone other than their parents and teacher wants them to succeed in school and in life can make a difference. Someone who pays special attention to just them helps them develop who they are, what they're good at, what they're interested in. Even being a parent, I have to hear from my kids' teachers to know what their recent interests are, sometimes I wonder how much parents know about their kid's interests when they have never had a chance to contact their teachers. The kids are so excited to have a mentor, many have parents that work difficult hours and are not able to be home and spend time with their kids until late at night. Single parents are even more overwhelmed.
From the Seedling website:
Research informs us that children, even those living in very high risk situations, demonstrate resiliency under the following circumstances:
- When they complete their education;
- When they are involved in a faith community; and
- When there are caring and consistent adults in their lives.
Of all the programs that I've been a part of, it has been difficult to continue being involved beyond a few months. Mentoring has been one of the few things that I've been able to invest in, all I've had to do is be a friend and enjoy her company. I wish I had the time to mentor more kids. I have been really impressed with people who have jobs and still make the time to spend with their mentees. There have been so many small ways that have encouraged me to see how this small investment is so worth the time and effort.